Holding a key well

What you are holding

Holding a key is a trust, not a power. Your sub chose you and chose what you can see and do; the arrangement works because they want it to. The best keyholders make a lock easier to keep: they notice, they encourage, and they decide with care.

On chastity.report you see exactly what your sub switches on for you and nothing else, in their own time zone. You can set their planned end, send tasks and notes, and build packages together, where they allow it.

Setting the end

An end date is a promise you are making on their behalf, so make one you mean. Short, kept ends build more trust than long ones moved at the last minute. When you change an end, say why in a note; surprise works better as a reward than as a rule.

Tasks and notes

Tasks work best when they are small, clear and doable today: a walk, a stretch, writing three lines, logging before ten. Five open at once is the limit here, and one or two is usually better. A note costs nothing and is often what a sub remembers: noticing a good week matters.

Agree in the terms how often tasks come and what is off limits, and keep to it. Nothing is enforced or scored here; a task not done is a conversation, not a punishment.

Check in

Look in regularly, even briefly. Opening their page on days they log is what builds In step, a streak you share. Ask how they are doing, not only how locked they are. If they paused you, respect it: it is theirs to use, without a reason, and it is a sign the arrangement is safe, not a failure.

Aftercare

The end of a lock, or cumming after a long one, can bring a drop: tiredness, low mood, feeling oddly flat. When a lock ends, Needs you suggests a check-in. A short message, some warmth and a plan for the next few days go a long way.

Health overrides everything

If your sub reports pain, numbness, colour change or swelling, the cage comes off now, whatever the end date says. Make sure they can always unlock in an emergency. A good keyholder is never the reason somebody delays getting help.