A task list and a personal record
A task list can remind you what you agreed to do. A journal gives you room to notice how that agreement feels in everyday life. If you use Obedience or SubTasks with a partner, keeping a short personal record alongside your tasks can make your next conversation more useful.
You do not need a complicated system. Start with one agreed check-in, a few lines about your day and a time to review the routine together.
This guide is based on the apps' official documentation, checked on 11 October 2026. It describes a suggested routine, rather than a hands-on app review. We have not verified an integration between chastity.report and either app; the steps below use them separately.
What Obedience and SubTasks can organise
Obedience is a habit tracker for consensual dominant and submissive relationships. Its documentation describes recurring habits, one-off tasks, reminders, progress tracking and agreed rewards or consequences. Those features can organise a partner-agreed routine around an evening check-in or a weekly conversation. Obedience habit tracker.
Its Premium page lists photo proof for chosen habits and says both partners need Premium for the full experience. Without Premium, it describes a limit of five habits for dominants. Check the current plans before building a routine around paid features. Obedience Premium.
SubTasks also organises partner-assigned tasks, with points, streaks, rewards and demerits. Its official guide describes optional note or photo proof and feedback on completed tasks. It also includes a Notebook with shared notes, journal entries a partner can react to, and agreements. How SubTasks works.
Obedience's website advertises a connection with its companion journalling app, Embrace. You may already have enough tools within the app you choose. A separate personal journal is an option if you want a place to record your lock and your reflections in your own way. Obedience and Embrace.
Choose a small routine you both understand
Begin with the purpose of the check-in. Is it a reminder to talk, a practical update or a moment to reflect? Agree what completion means, when it is due and what to do when either person is unavailable.
Example, fictional: two partners agree to send a short evening update on weekdays, keep personal notes separately and talk on Sunday about whether the routine still fits. They agree that travel and needed breaks are reasons to change the plan, rather than add more tasks.
This table is a planning example, rather than a description of either app's permission settings. Check the actual sharing controls before entering personal content.
If you live in different time zones, name the deadline in the person's local time. Obedience's FAQ says a habit defaults to its creator's time zone and can be changed. An evening task should not quietly become a middle-of-the-night deadline for the other person. Obedience time zones.
| Part of the routine | What it records | Who needs to see it |
|---|---|---|
| Agreed evening task | Whether the update was sent | Both partners |
| Personal daily note | What felt useful or difficult | The writer, unless they choose to share |
| Weekly conversation | What to keep, change or pause | Both partners |
Keep a daily note that adds context
An app may show a task as complete while leaving you with something worth discussing. Your note can capture that context without becoming another long assignment.
Use the daily chastity journal template to start. Three prompts are enough for a short reflection:
What happened today that I want to remember? What felt manageable, and what needs changing? Is there anything I want to discuss at our next check-in?
Example, fictional: “The evening update helped us stay in touch. The deadline felt rushed after work. I want to suggest a later time for next week.”
Write what you need for your own record. You can share a short summary without copying every personal thought into a partner-visible task. A missed entry does not need catching up in detail; start again with today's note.
Review the week together
At the end of the week, read back a few entries and look for something you can act on. Repeatedly rushing the same task may be a reason to change its timing. A useful check-in might be worth keeping even if you simplify the rest.
The weekly chastity review template helps turn those observations into a next step. If you want to prepare for a conversation, use the keyholder check-in template.
Ask what helped, what felt like pressure and whether both people still want the agreement. Choose one change for the next week. You can reduce the number of tasks, change a deadline or pause the routine. Rewards and streaks should support an agreement you both want to keep.
Decide where personal information belongs
Before uploading a note or photo, check who can view it, how long it stays available and how to delete it. A feature called a private journal may still allow access by a linked partner, depending on the app's design.
Obedience's policy says app data is encrypted in transit and at rest, but is not end-to-end encrypted. SubTasks publishes its own policy covering relationship information, notes, messages and photo proof. These are provider statements, rather than an independent security assessment. Read the Obedience privacy policy and SubTasks privacy policy before choosing what to store.
chastity.report is a private chastity journal. Keep your entries for yourself, and check your sharing settings before inviting anyone to read them. Using it alongside another app in the routine described here means keeping separate records; it does not automatically transfer tasks, points, photos or entries.
Start with one useful check-in
Choose one task that serves a clear purpose, write a short daily note and set a date to review it. You can use the journal templates before deciding whether to keep your record in chastity.report.
The routine should leave room for rest, care and a change of mind. A needed break comes before a task deadline or a streak. Your record can include that break, and you can return when the routine works for you again.
Start with one useful check-in. Your record can grow at a pace that works for you.
Erik